Tuesday, 22 September 2015

Box it!

Box it!

Surprises are like the spice that make relationships taste good when you constantly apply them. Tender kisses before leaving for the office, breakfast in bed, kisses on the neck while slow dancing are all amazing but they are not enough. Sometimes the moment couples get married they let their guard down and switch their groove off, that is when they start leaving like neighbours under the same roof. Marriage and relationships are not prison sentences, but freedom to express your love to your partner and also get undiluted love from your partner. Many couples live together but they are so far apart, couples like this don’t know anything about each other. The wife can’t say the colour of tie the husband is wearing, the husband can’t tell the colour of purse the wife is carrying. There shouldn’t be limitation to the happiness you are to show your spouse, enjoy life together like you are dating.                                                       
Ladies, surprise you spouse constantly by getting him men related gifts, things you know he would appreciate and cherish. Blow his mind, sweep him off his feet by being unpredictable with your plans. As a man, we love it when a woman pulls a mission impossible kind of stunt at planning a smooth dinner date to treats us like kings and we are more impressed when she does that with style. The gifts you going to get him is intended to draw him closer to you, and whenever he sees it your face flashes in his head.

Gift for two - get 2 same pairs of sneakers one for him and the other for you for exercise, it will strengthen the bond and pass a message when worn together.
Shout it but do it quietly – know when and where he will be hanging out with the boys, send someone neutral, someone who’s not in the picture to deliver a bouquet of red rose with a short note saying something alluring and ending it with something like “the girl after your heart” when you get a call that the package is delivered give him a call a tell him “I love you” I hope you love the bouquet?

Be a therapist – after work am sure he must have been exhausted because of the stress he faced, open your box of surprise and unleash a soft massage to relieve his stress, indulge him with sweet, soft and sensual words that will make him sleepy but awake, weak yet strong and satisfied but still hungry for your touch.

Write it in black and white – Technology has made some parts of romance less romantic, gone are the days of writing love letters, text messages does all that now people say. The feelings conveyed when writing a letter can not be compared to those conveyed when typing a text message. It’s a hand written thing with ink and not computer written; when you read a letter from your loved one physiologically you hear their voice talking to you. Write him love letters from time to time and post them to be delivered to the house addressed in his name, let him read and fall in love. Add this to your box of surprises it will work greatly for you.

Lips to collar – Pass an open massage to other women out there to stay clear of this man (Your husband) because his taken. Kiss him on the collar of his shirt and make sure to wear a lipstick before doing that.
  !      Warning, Please don’t try this on someone’s husband, boyfriend or fiancĂ©.   

Men spoil your women extravagantly in decadent opulence, leave no stone unturned by making love to her soul, mind and body. Hypnotize her with sweet fantasies by poetry, and whisper sounds of love straight into her heart, if you don’t mean it don’t say it to her; women have a way of sensing lies when they hear one, especially your spouse who knows you well like the back of her hand.

Let’s do it – Men, this is the first part of your task. Surprise her by requesting to join her, partake in something she loves doing but you don’t find interesting. It might be baking, cooking or washing.

Karaoke time – show your artistic side by singing her a love song at the karaoke bar. Make sure to sing the song she loves most and say at least one crazy thing or something magical you love about her before singing. If you don’t have an idea about what to sing, Marvin Gaye’s let’s get it on will break the ice.

Solve the puzzle – she has to make good use of her brains, because beauty with brains is a plus. She might be your wife, girlfriend or fiancĂ©e; if she solves this kind of task easily the trophy won’t be cherished. The game starts with a text message instructing her where to get her first clue from, which will lead her to her next task till she finds the trophy. It will be a mental game for her so she has to do more of brain storming. But make sure to make the trophy worth the game. The trophy can be exquisite dinner dress, or an expensive set of jewelry or better still if you want to propose, make it a wedding ring with her name engraved in it with a note saying “Will you Marry Me”. Whichever way it turns out, a dinner date is certain for her to celebrate her victory.

Private Dining – make a nice dish (something she will love) with a bottle of wine of her choice, make sure to put the atmosphere of the room in a romantic condition, cool coloured lights gracing everywhere accompanied with burning candles and soft oldies or sax playing very low in the background. Arrange the cutleries accordingly and the dish must be hot or warm that depends how she likes it. Remember it’s a private dinner you have to be on your tuxedo suite. Looking all sharp and handsome is also important in this scene. When she returns from work to find no one but burning candle lights, cool coloured lights and the music playing low she will be confused. When you appear from nowhere, be a gentleman and invite her to the dining table. 5 to 6 minutes after the dining is over invite her for a slow dance to close up the night. The whole thing is indoors that’s the best part. I know someone will be saying the kids will blow up everything, hold up! The kids can go over to grandma’s place or uncle’s place because Dad needs time alone with Mum.

Tales of two cities – this type of stories are usually told in the bedroom and everybody has their own unique stories. The kind of story you should tell her should probably be how she stole your heart the first time you saw her,that will bring back the passions in a reloaded form. It’s left to you to know which chapter you want to start with.

Making our spouse happy should be our daily objectives because we are unknowingly  making ourselves happy.  Live happily ever after like the little characters in Disney fairytale stories.

"Excessive Happiness is never an overdose, use as much as you need for it is medicine to the body and oil to the heart".....Pablo Onuoha

Thursday, 10 September 2015

Lights! Camera!! Action!!!

Lights! Camera!! Action!!!

Marriage they say is an institution and it takes patience, tolerance, respect and love to survive in such an institution and not many people have kept their heads above the water when it came to that. Most people think marriages are like scenes from a Hollywood romantic movie all sweet, rosy and beautiful but it’s not all that. Marriage has its own downsides but if you are ready to sacrifice and tolerate, the upsides will be like the peak of Mount Everest. I have seen some old folks strongly in love and if you ask them how long they’ve been married their answers will surprise you, that does not mean they have never had issues in their relationship, but a lot of self sacrifices and tolerance were personally ingrained into their marriages’ to keep it running and that is the lubricant that keeps the mechanism running efficiently. The old folks did not apply any special skills to survive in marriage; they just did the right things.
In the celebrity world, relationships and marriages end like a hot knife through butter, but some celebrity couples has proven their critics wrong telling them “Marriage is a bond”.
Here are my top ten couples who have survived the marriage institution and are still going stronger and stronger and surprisingly they are all movies stars. Some People have wrong notions about movie stars but get ready for some surprise. Here is my top ten list of couples who have made it work despite the temptations of being high profile movie stars in today’s world of Lights! Camera!! Action!!!.

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith: 18 Years
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith celebrated their 15th wedding anniversary on December 31, 2013. The pair married in 1997 after meeting on the set of "The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air" in 1990. Pinkett is the stepmother of Will's son Trey, whom he had in a previous marriage. Together, the couple has two children, Jaden and Willow who followed in the footsteps of their parents. Don't they look just amazing?

Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos: 19 Years
After meeting on the set of "All My Children" in 1995, Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos' off-screen romance quickly heated up. The pair dated for a year before eloping to Las Vegas on May 1, 1996. They have since welcomed three children, sons Michael and Joaquin and daughter Lola Grace.
"You have to make some time for yourselves, and that's hard to do with schedules the way they are, and especially with the kids back to school," Consuelos told YouTango.

Warren Beatty & Annette Benning: 23 Years

After decades of dating high profile Hollywood women including Natalie Wood, Julie Christie, Diane Keaton and Madonna, Beatty settled down with Annette Benning, whom he met on the set of "Bugsy." Married in 1992, the couple has four children together.

John Travolta and Kelly Preston: 24 Years
John Travolta married actress Kelly Preston in 1991 after meeting in 1987 on the set of "The Experts." The two have three children together, daughter Ella Bleu and sons Benjamin and Jett, who died in 2009.
"One thing I've learned is that you really have to keep creating your marriage. You can't let it sort of drift off to be however it will be... We never go to bed angry. We work it out before we go to sleep unless we're too, too exhausted," Preston told Redbook in 1998. "Then we put it on hold until first thing. We know what each other's buttons are -- so we don't push them. Neither of us likes to yell, so we don't. I think these rules are really what has been the basis for us, because we've had so much affection, love, respect, enjoyment, and fun."

Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson: 27 Years
Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson married on April 30, 1988 after meeting on the set of Hank's show "Bosom Buddies." They have two sons, Chet and Truman. Hanks spoke with Oprah about his close bond with Wilson in a 2001 interview. He said, "There's such an advantage to being involved in the day-to-day details of each other's lives. It's a marvelous fabric to exist in."

Olu Jacobs and Joke Silva: 30 years

Olu Jacobs married Joke Silva in 1985 after they met at the National Theatre in Lagos, Nigeria while they were rehearsing for Jero’s Metamorphosis by Professor Wole Soyinka in 1981. Joke silva was to play Sister Rubeka and Olu Jacobs was playing the role of Prophet Jero and, at the same time co-directing the play. They celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary sometimes in July 2015. When asked what kept their marriage going? The reply was “Friendship. We are each other’s very close friend. It’s not as if we don’t have close friends outside our marriage, but I think we are both each other’s number one close friend. The other thing is mutual respect, the fact that we both share the same passion about the area of entertainment that we are in. Of course, the various challenges that we’ve faced over the years, we’ve learnt how to surmount them together. At different times when it is necessary, we have both learnt to forgive each other. I guess the sum total of what I’m saying is that God’s grace has been present in our marriage.” Joke silva told Vanguard Nigeria in 2014. 

Christopher Guest and Jamie Lee Curtis: 31 Years
Jamie Lee Curtis married director Christopher Guest on December 18, 1984. She officially became Lady Haden-Guest in 1996 when Guest inherited the Barony of Haden-Guest following his father's death. The pair has two adopted children, Annie and Thomas.

Denzel and Pauletta Washington: 32 Years
Denzel Washington married actress Pauletta Pearson on June 25, 1983 after meeting on the set of the TV film "Wilma." Pearson and Washington have four children together, son John David, daughter Katia, and twins Olivia and Malcolm.
Denzel and Pauletta recently revealed the secrets behind their long-lasting marriage in an interview with Ebony magazine. "I live with this man. I see the down part. I see the sad part. I see every part," Pauletta said. "He has and knows he has that stability in me as his wife. That gives him strength, regardless of if he misuses it. I can't dwell on that. But I do know that gives him a great platform to go and fly." Denzel added, "There's no magical mystery. We go through up and downs like any couple."

Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman: 33 Years
Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman aren't just one of Hollywood's longest-lasting couples, they are one of the funniest. The pair married on January 28, 1982 and are blessed with three children together, daughters Lucy and Grace and son Jacob. In late 2012, DeVito and Perlman announced their intention to separate after 30 years of marriage, but have since reconciled.

Samuel L. Jackson and LaTanya Richardson: 35 Years
Samuel L. Jackson wed former sports channel producer LaTanya Richardson in 1980 after meeting in class at Morehouse College. They welcomed daughter Zoe three years later, and despite several rough patches over the years, their love has endured. "LaTanya has a great sense of humor, a great love for life and a great love for the people around her," Jackson told Ebony magazine in 2003.

These are the people who are supposed to be called the real husbands/wives of Hollywood.

"Marriage is a sacrifice and not a game,those who sees it as a game end up losing out."
                                                                                                                                       ...Pablo Onuoha.