Monday, 6 April 2015



The way our relationship with our partner goes is determined by how well we stir it with our tongue. The tongue has stirred many boats of relationships, marriages, friendships and even families into an iceberg causing huge devastation in their lives. Speaking life into your union goes a long way in making it grow both physically and spiritually, I saw a tweet from Denzel Washington, ‘@DenzelWisdom “A wise woman knows the importance of speaking life into her man. If you love him: believe in him, encourage him & be his peace”.’  This type of words might be few but it’s powerful when spoken from the right tongue to the person that needs it.

The book of proverbs 18:21 say “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” it’s important we speak words of positivity into our relationships and family life. Round the world many people are facing disintegration with their relationships, you have the supernatural powers you need to protect your union from crashing into an iceberg. The simplest things to comprehend are the hardest things to say because we want them to be, if you say them, they won’t hurt, or pull a strand of hair from you, rather it makes you feel free and happier and healthier.

Being truthful to your heart will save your relationship in a million and 1 ways, you can lie to everyone except yourself. Our conscience is that inner friend that is blunt with us when we go offline with our attitude, that inner voice that tells you “hey, what you did was wrong, you know you just messed up, go on apologize and make up. This is where the skill to stir your relationship off the iceberg comes in, when you wrong your spouse and its heavy in your heart just remember what Jesus said in Luke 6:45 “. . . out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks”. This is where understanding your action and accepting responsibility comes to play. When you truly feel remorse from your heart it tells in your eyes. Saying soothing words and apologizing romantically calms the nerves and it gives rooms for forgiveness.

The magical words are words that never crossed our minds, words so few but full of life. Words made so powerful by the tongue that it can mend a broken heart, heal a wounded soul, make a sober face smile, make one cry tears of joy, the list is endless. The magical words that can change the world when we use them at the right time are worlds like I love you, I am sorry, I miss you, I never meant to disrespect you, It was my fault not yours, I accept responsibility for my action, I take the blame, I want to be with you forever and I mean it etc.

Put some positive energy into your tongue so it can work miracles for you and your relationship.

Wednesday, 1 April 2015


I would like to start by asking what is the connection between love and music? Where ever there is love there is music and where ever there is music there is love. From couples who are deeply in love dancing all alone in their room to the slow oldies of Marvin Gaye’s (Sexual Healing) or Alexander O’Neal’s (If you were here tonight) to Whitney Houston’s (I will always love you) or Sade’s (Sweetest Taboo), to when you visit the lovers garden and see young lovers starring into each other’s eyes while songs like Boys 2 men’s (I’ll make love to you) or Bryan Adam’s (Everything I do - I do it for you) is playing you will deduce that love songs are romantically powerful. Music puts you in the mood for love but cool instrumental sounds activates the love hormones inside you, Instruments like the Sax, piano, violin, guitar, flute or any track from artistes like Kenny G Or classical ensembles are therapeutic to the heart and soul. Every time you hear a soft string from a guitar in a cool love song, it strike’s a cord in your heart and it generates a harmonious tone between the instrument and the heart, that connection captures your attention and makes you fall in love with the soft sound serenading the atmosphere.

Like my friend Mr. Jo’ would say “Every song has its own dance” and I will complete it by saying “Love is the dance to any romantic song”. I had the opportunity to see the happy people video by R.kelly and I noticed the joy on the faces of the people as they danced with their loved ones, it was beautiful, colourful and awesome like the video itself and the atmosphere in the video provided a perfect bond for the couples to dance together. I took my time to observe some nice diners in the city and in the movies as well and I noticed they both have one thing in common, that is the presence of a slow songs playing in the hall, normally classical or instrumental. This scenario creates a perfect atmosphere for intimacy between couples and it’s also healthy for their love life.

Next time you want to have quality time with your spouse, or maybe you want to put him/her in the mood for love, nice melodious music will do the trick. While the music is playing set the pace by making the environment comfortable, soft lighting, the warmth in your eyes, soft baritone and hushed whispers, sweet spices and aroma, soft musk undertones, or sensual, exotic fragrances oozing seductively from your body. Just like the movie love and basketball, love and music are the ingredients to spice up any relationship either old or new. Music is food to the soul. This article will not be complete without these quotes, 
“music expresses that which cannot be put into words, and that which cannot remain silent- Victor Hugo” sounds familiar right?, “life is a song, love is the music”, “music is only a mystery to those who want it explained. Love and music are the same- Simon Van Booy”.
“If music be the food of love, play on, give me excess of it, that surfeiting, the appetite may sicken, and so die- William Shakespare, Twelfth Night”.
Make your love a classical song worth listing to – Pablo Onuoha.
Keep loving while the music plays on.

Saturday, 21 March 2015

What love should be?

What love should be?
I was with a friend on a cool afternoon and we were discussing random things and a thought hit me, after thinking it through for a while I threw the thought to my friend and the thought was, what does he think love should be? And he’s response was captivating.

He started like this, love has to be one of the strangest paradox’s in life, everybody wants it, few know what it is, most believe it is a bunch of other things that really has nothing to do with the eternal gift that is love. Humanity is in love with love by far more literary and artistic expressions have their roots in love, let’s face it we see it everywhere from the poppy dog eyes of Da Vinci’s Monalisa to the moan’s and sighs you hear watching the latest Hollywood chick flicks, it’s all around us, from superman’s constant fixation on Lois lane to Bogarde’s famous “here’s looking at your kid from Casablanca”, and if you just came out of a bomb shelter and don’t know what television is all you need to do is go to the park, see old couples walking hand in hand, teenage girls giggling like they have butterfly in their tummies or a pimple faces boys poppy dog eyes, its everywhere, and everyone no matter who wants it, even Atilla the Hun succumbed to it.

To do justice to this piece I have to briefly talk about what love isn’t, love isn’t attraction, it is not a warm feeling you get when you get on a bus, and see a beautiful girl for the first time and start obsessing, chances are it’s either lust or infatuation, love is not lying awake at night dreaming about her, or showing your cruel side to flowers, plucking each petals “he loves me he loves me not”, love isn’t a feeling love is a choice and no one  aptly describes or captures the essence of this eternal gift better than  Paul in 1 Corinthians 13: 4 -7.

Love is selfless, its giving the best part of you without expecting anything in return, it’s not investing in another’s emotions for your benefit,  its working to see the joy and happiness in another, its hoping to see the miracle that is the beautiful growth experienced in the person you love, not manipulating people and events to bring about what you think they should become, its holding back, bearing the pain even though you can attack realizing attacking would hurt more knowing the one you love is hurt, an injury inflicted by you. Love is a choice and when we make that choice we begin to experience the joy and total happiness that only true love can bring, and only when we realize that love is a choice and not a feeling you get because you fell in love, we would begin to fight for what is truly important ‘true love’.

I leave you with these thoughts from these great men and woman, “love conquers all”  Virgil,  Aristotle describes love as “to will the good of another”, Bertrand Russell describes love as “a condition of absolute value” as opposed to relative value, Philosopher Gottfried Leibniz said that “love is to be delighted in the happiness of another”, Meher Baba stated that “in love there is a feeling of unity and an active appreciation of the intrinsic worth of the object of love”, Biologist Jeremy Griffith defines love as “unconditional selflessness”, so whatever form it takes, Romantic love paternal/maternal love, it can all be summed up in 5 words, in the immortal words of the Beatles “All you need is love”.

Thursday, 19 March 2015



I know not "love"
until the day 

i met you.
The first smile
the first hug,
the first passionate 

"kiss" and
the first night 

changed everything 

in a beautiful second.
you is like
A heart
a beat.
A star
the sky.
A bird
its wings and 
A tree without 
its leaves
You are the life in me.

Wednesday, 18 March 2015



Humans were made with a love mechanism (the heart) inside of them created specifically for the purpose of love. There’s love inside of everyone despite your profession, sex, gender, age, race or nationality. Love is a universal language that is why you see people from all walks of life speaking a unified tongue when it comes to love, people like philosophers, scientists, philanthropists, poets, musicians, educators and so on. Here are some quotes that will strike a chord in your heart and you will understand the reason why I said love is a unified Language.

Mon cœur est totalement pour toi parce que je suis amoureux.
(My heart is only for you because I’m in love). Translated from French.
    Pablo Onuoha

Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.
– Mother Teresa

“If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything.”
― Marilyn Monroe

Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.
– H. Jackson Brown Jr.

“Love is like the wind, you can't see it but you can feel it.”
― Nicholas Sparks

Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.
– H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
― Robert A. Heinlein

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.
– Aristotle

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche

The first duty of love is to listen.
- Paul Tillich

“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
― Dr. Seuss

We loved with a love that was more than love.
– Edgar Allan Poe

“The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.”
― Marilyn Monroe

“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.”
― Anais Nin

“There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”
― Sarah Dessen,

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect—you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.”
― Bob Marley

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
― Pablo Neruda

Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you.
– Loretta Young

“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.”
― Robert Fulghum

Where there is love there is life.
– Mahatma Gandhi

Love is like a fever which comes and goes quite independently of the will. …there are no age limits for love.
– Stendhal

Nothing is mysterious, no human relation. Except love.
– Susan Sontag

Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused.
– Paulo Coelho

You can transmute love, ignore it, muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you. I know by experience that the poets are right: love is eternal.
- E. M. Forster.

Love is a rhythm to the heart when it beats, go on and make it into a song.

    Pablo Onuoha