Saturday, 21 March 2015

What love should be?

What love should be?
I was with a friend on a cool afternoon and we were discussing random things and a thought hit me, after thinking it through for a while I threw the thought to my friend and the thought was, what does he think love should be? And he’s response was captivating.

He started like this, love has to be one of the strangest paradox’s in life, everybody wants it, few know what it is, most believe it is a bunch of other things that really has nothing to do with the eternal gift that is love. Humanity is in love with love by far more literary and artistic expressions have their roots in love, let’s face it we see it everywhere from the poppy dog eyes of Da Vinci’s Monalisa to the moan’s and sighs you hear watching the latest Hollywood chick flicks, it’s all around us, from superman’s constant fixation on Lois lane to Bogarde’s famous “here’s looking at your kid from Casablanca”, and if you just came out of a bomb shelter and don’t know what television is all you need to do is go to the park, see old couples walking hand in hand, teenage girls giggling like they have butterfly in their tummies or a pimple faces boys poppy dog eyes, its everywhere, and everyone no matter who wants it, even Atilla the Hun succumbed to it.

To do justice to this piece I have to briefly talk about what love isn’t, love isn’t attraction, it is not a warm feeling you get when you get on a bus, and see a beautiful girl for the first time and start obsessing, chances are it’s either lust or infatuation, love is not lying awake at night dreaming about her, or showing your cruel side to flowers, plucking each petals “he loves me he loves me not”, love isn’t a feeling love is a choice and no one  aptly describes or captures the essence of this eternal gift better than  Paul in 1 Corinthians 13: 4 -7.

Love is selfless, its giving the best part of you without expecting anything in return, it’s not investing in another’s emotions for your benefit,  its working to see the joy and happiness in another, its hoping to see the miracle that is the beautiful growth experienced in the person you love, not manipulating people and events to bring about what you think they should become, its holding back, bearing the pain even though you can attack realizing attacking would hurt more knowing the one you love is hurt, an injury inflicted by you. Love is a choice and when we make that choice we begin to experience the joy and total happiness that only true love can bring, and only when we realize that love is a choice and not a feeling you get because you fell in love, we would begin to fight for what is truly important ‘true love’.

I leave you with these thoughts from these great men and woman, “love conquers all”  Virgil,  Aristotle describes love as “to will the good of another”, Bertrand Russell describes love as “a condition of absolute value” as opposed to relative value, Philosopher Gottfried Leibniz said that “love is to be delighted in the happiness of another”, Meher Baba stated that “in love there is a feeling of unity and an active appreciation of the intrinsic worth of the object of love”, Biologist Jeremy Griffith defines love as “unconditional selflessness”, so whatever form it takes, Romantic love paternal/maternal love, it can all be summed up in 5 words, in the immortal words of the Beatles “All you need is love”.

Thursday, 19 March 2015



I know not "love"
until the day 

i met you.
The first smile
the first hug,
the first passionate 

"kiss" and
the first night 

changed everything 

in a beautiful second.
you is like
A heart
a beat.
A star
the sky.
A bird
its wings and 
A tree without 
its leaves
You are the life in me.

Wednesday, 18 March 2015



Humans were made with a love mechanism (the heart) inside of them created specifically for the purpose of love. There’s love inside of everyone despite your profession, sex, gender, age, race or nationality. Love is a universal language that is why you see people from all walks of life speaking a unified tongue when it comes to love, people like philosophers, scientists, philanthropists, poets, musicians, educators and so on. Here are some quotes that will strike a chord in your heart and you will understand the reason why I said love is a unified Language.

Mon cœur est totalement pour toi parce que je suis amoureux.
(My heart is only for you because I’m in love). Translated from French.
    Pablo Onuoha

Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.
– Mother Teresa

“If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything.”
― Marilyn Monroe

Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.
– H. Jackson Brown Jr.

“Love is like the wind, you can't see it but you can feel it.”
― Nicholas Sparks

Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.
– H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
― Robert A. Heinlein

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.
– Aristotle

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche

The first duty of love is to listen.
- Paul Tillich

“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
― Dr. Seuss

We loved with a love that was more than love.
– Edgar Allan Poe

“The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.”
― Marilyn Monroe

“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.”
― Anais Nin

“There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”
― Sarah Dessen,

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect—you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.”
― Bob Marley

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
― Pablo Neruda

Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you.
– Loretta Young

“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.”
― Robert Fulghum

Where there is love there is life.
– Mahatma Gandhi

Love is like a fever which comes and goes quite independently of the will. …there are no age limits for love.
– Stendhal

Nothing is mysterious, no human relation. Except love.
– Susan Sontag

Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused.
– Paulo Coelho

You can transmute love, ignore it, muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you. I know by experience that the poets are right: love is eternal.
- E. M. Forster.

Love is a rhythm to the heart when it beats, go on and make it into a song.

    Pablo Onuoha

Friday, 13 March 2015



Love is a concept bigger than any concert you could ever imagine on the face of the earth. It might not be as loud as a concert but it is stronger than it. Love is divine, spiritual and strong. In the Bible the book of Solomon (also known as Songs of Solomon) 8:6 said ……..for love is as strong as death meaning love has a strong bond, he went on to say Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it, the message here is simply, love knows no hindrances or obstacles. I said earlier that love is spiritual the reason being love is the only thing that hits you and what you feel next becomes magical, moments like these leave  you  bursting with happiness and joy that nothing else matters, because you are in love with the person your heart truly wants.

Most times young people wonder what makes the grand ma’s and the grand pa’s stay together, married for over 65 years and counting, while with young couples today divorce seems as natural as breathing, and the rates are climbing every day, the old folks will say Trust, Respect, and Endurance are the keys to a long lasting relationship. God made mention of LOVE in His commandment when He said Thou shalt LOVE the Lord thy God with thy whole heart, and with thy whole soul, and with thy whole mind, and with thy whole strength and Thou shalt LOVE thy neighbor as thyself these are His two greatest commandments and 1 Corinthians 13:1 – 10 says

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.

4 Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful;

5 it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;

6 it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.

7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 

8 Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. 

9 For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect;

 10 but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away.

The word perfect depicted here is love. Love is free, love is life, love is gentle, love is priceless and love is Beautiful.